Did you know your brain will always choose the familiar over the unfamiliar? Your brain associates familiar with safe and unfamiliar with unsafe. The problem is, is that for people who have experienced trauma in childhood, adolescence and/or adulthood their brain identifies pain, anger, sadness,…
I’ve done it. I’ve created my first digital workshop for victim/survivors of Domestic Violence which offers the information, knowledge, tools, strategies, resources and process to create a life after Domestic Violence. It’s a 5 module video workshop in which I talk openly and honestly about…
If you’re walking through the jungle and you come across a lion your entire body will immediately and automatically go into survival mode. Within a matter of moments fear of the lion causes stress which activates your fight or flight response. Adrenaline is released, your…
I end most of my posts with ‘You are significant because you are and I love you because you exist’ and I want to explain why. For many people, love feels conditional in some form or another. You may have felt loved, appreciated and valued…
You’ve probably heard of people pleasing but did you know that if you are a people pleaser as a result of trauma you experienced growing up, you could be acting out what’s actually referred to as fawning? The Cambridge Dictionary defines fawning as “praising someone too…
It’s hard to leave because your brain wants what is familiar because it believes it’s keeping you alive by keeping you with what you know because it’s scared of the unfamiliar, of the unknown. Do you know the strength and resilience it takes to stay…
It can be very hard for anyone to choose a counsellor or therapist. It can be especially challenging if you were abused or traumatised as a child. You may wish to call Blue Knot Helpline on 1300 657 380 to speak to one of our counsellors. The…
This blog post was originally written 2 years ago. I’m now nearly 9 years out and still living with more peace than I ever experienced while stuck inside. While you’re living in fear, being controlled, degraded, assaulted, abused and isolated it can feel like a…