Did you know your brain will always choose the familiar over the unfamiliar? Your brain associates familiar with safe and unfamiliar with unsafe. The problem is, is that for people who have experienced trauma in childhood, adolescence and/or adulthood their brain identifies pain, anger, sadness,…
I escaped 9 years ago with my 5 kids a very defeated and broken woman. I spent the first 2 years partying every weekend and keeping myself busy to the point of physical illness and exhaustion to numb my pain. 7 1/2 years ago I…
By Brad Chilcott https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/jul/08/it-is-all-men-to-varying-degrees-mens-violence-against-women-is-a-systemic-crisis Why?” has been the most consistent response when I’ve told my progressive friends that I’ve taken on the role of executive director of White Ribbon Australia for its next chapter. They didn’t miss the organisation that had first become publicly synonymous…
I’ve done it. I’ve created my first digital workshop for victim/survivors of Domestic Violence which offers the information, knowledge, tools, strategies, resources and process to create a life after Domestic Violence. It’s a 5 module video workshop in which I talk openly and honestly about…
Domestic Violence isn’t an argument every now and again or even semi regularly. Domestic Violence is an ongoing pattern of abusive behaviours where one person attempts to control the other physically, emotionally, mentally, sexually, financially and/or socially. Domestic Violence does not discriminate between age, gender,…
My posts reference my lived experiences of female victim/male abuser however I acknowledge that men can be victims too. Men experience hard times and are allowed to take a time out. Healing is not a privilege for any one group of people. Healing is everyone’s…
If you’re walking through the jungle and you come across a lion your entire body will immediately and automatically go into survival mode. Within a matter of moments fear of the lion causes stress which activates your fight or flight response. Adrenaline is released, your…
I end most of my posts with ‘You are significant because you are and I love you because you exist’ and I want to explain why. For many people, love feels conditional in some form or another. You may have felt loved, appreciated and valued…
Through my work, my learning, my own trauma experiences and healing journey I have come to believe that underneath anger is a whole lot of pain. Hurt people hurt people as the saying goes. Pain that isn’t allowed to be expressed stays suppressed until it…