Did you know your brain will always choose the familiar over the unfamiliar? Your brain associates familiar with safe and unfamiliar with unsafe. The problem is, is that for people who have experienced trauma in childhood, adolescence and/or adulthood their brain identifies pain, anger, sadness,…
I end most of my posts with ‘You are significant because you are and I love you because you exist’ and I want to explain why. For many people, love feels conditional in some form or another. You may have felt loved, appreciated and valued…
You’ve probably heard of people pleasing but did you know that if you are a people pleaser as a result of trauma you experienced growing up, you could be acting out what’s actually referred to as fawning? The Cambridge Dictionary defines fawning as “praising someone too…
It can be very hard for anyone to choose a counsellor or therapist. It can be especially challenging if you were abused or traumatised as a child. You may wish to call Blue Knot Helpline on 1300 657 380 to speak to one of our counsellors. The…
This is a piece I wrote for Australian STOP Domestic Violence Conference after hearing women struggle after leaving their abusive partners. #STOPDV19 Do you love him or….? After living for an extended period of time in an abusive, volatile and toxic relationship you muster the courage,…
This was one of my first posts on Lisa’s Sanctuary. It’s a small insight into why women stay in controlling and abusive relationships long after you think they should have left. My mission is to create awareness of Domestic Violence and empower young women and…
Goal setting begins with something you want to achieve. Do you want to land a new job? Do you want to finish your course? Save a specific amount of money? Learn a new skill? Complete an thrill seeking adventure? Go on a holiday? Buy a…