It is ‘all men’, to varying degrees: men’s violence against women is a systemic crisis

By Brad Chilcott https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/jul/08/it-is-all-men-to-varying-degrees-mens-violence-against-women-is-a-systemic-crisis Why?” has been the most consistent response when I’ve told my progressive friends that I’ve taken on the role of executive director of White Ribbon Australia for its next chapter. They didn’t miss the organisation that had first become publicly synonymous…

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My Book – Why I Stayed.

 Domestic Violence isn’t an argument every now and again or even semi regularly.  Domestic Violence is an ongoing pattern of abusive behaviours where one person attempts to control the other physically, emotionally, mentally, sexually, financially and/or socially.  Domestic Violence does not discriminate between age, gender,…

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Men are victims too

My posts reference my lived experiences of female victim/male abuser however I acknowledge that men can be victims too. Men experience hard times and are allowed to take a time out. Healing is not a privilege for any one group of people. Healing is everyone’s…

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Why Is It So Hard To Leave?

It’s hard to leave because your brain wants what is familiar because it believes it’s keeping you alive by keeping you with what you know because it’s scared of the unfamiliar, of the unknown. Do you know the strength and resilience it takes to stay…

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Do you love him or…..?

This is a piece I wrote for Australian STOP Domestic Violence Conference after hearing women struggle after leaving their abusive partners. #STOPDV19 Do you love him or….? After living for an extended period of time in an abusive, volatile and toxic relationship you muster the courage,…

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Life After Domestic Violence

This blog post was originally written 2 years ago. I’m now nearly 9 years out and still living with more peace than I ever experienced while stuck inside. While you’re living in fear, being controlled, degraded, assaulted, abused and isolated it can feel like a…

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Background Check (Australia)

Several years ago a pilot program was established in 3 NSW regions where you (or a concerned family member/friend) could attend the police station to seek information and any previous history of domestic violence about a current or former partner. It was designed to give…

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